Buddha once said "If one person conquers in battle a thousand times a thousand, and another conquers himself, he who conquers himself is the greatest of all conquerors." But how much do we know about self-conquest, self-mastery, and self-control? Why do I say that love is balanced by self-control? Because love is self-giving, and self-giving and self-control are complementary, the one to the other. How can we give ourselves in love until we've learned to control ourselves? Our self has to be mastered before it can be offered in the service of others.