Shame is only partly about blameworthiness. Of course, we do feel ashamed of ourselves when we are guilty, and we should. Sin is, after all, a disgrace. Like Peter, who wept bitterly after his betrayal of Jesus, we rightly feel simultaneously guilty and ashamed of our sins. But often--according to the experts, very often--our feelings of shame attach to things that have little to do with our moral or spiritual deficiencies and have everything to do with a whole array of other areas in which we think we fall short.