My husband and I like to play "what if?" We sit and toss out ideas: What if we moved out of state? What if we enclosed our porch? What if we got a dog? Some of the what ifs come to fruition; others don't. But we've found that the very process airs out our marriage, opens doors and windows of possibility, draws us closer. It's not an idle exercise; to dream, to crack open that door, starts things happening.