Someone once said, "Angels can fly because they take themselves so lightly." We need to put lightness back into our marriages.

When I sense I've been taking myself too seriously, I carry small toys in my pocket; when I reach for change and feel a toy, I remember to lighten up.

Changing routine can also do wonders. Try kidnapping your spouse. A friend of mine kidnapped his wife and took her to a hotel 40 miles away. My wife once kidnapped me and took me on a helicopter ride. Marriage is for life--we might as well make it fun.