A Christian counselor told me about a man who came to counseling because he was having trouble controlling his anger. He had these outbursts, and it was affecting his work and his family life. So he finally decided to get some help.

The counselor wanted to find out if this man could conceive of a different way of living. She asked him, "What would your life look like if you got rid of your anger?"

It was quiet for a long time.

Then the man said, "But if I get rid of my anger, what will I have left?"