Ken Canfield writes in "The Heart of a Father”:

During a family vacation, Sarah got a little ornery and pushed Hannah.

"Did you push your sister?" I asked.

"No," she denied. Since this was becoming a growing pattern for Sarah, I decided to take a walk with her to get to the bottom of things.

"Sarah," I told her, "I'm really disappointed with your behavior. What do you need to do about it?"

I expected Sarah to tell me she needed to stop lying or apologize to her sister, but instead, with tears in her eyes, she said, "I need to ask Jesus to come into my heart."

There I was, zeroing on behavior modification, and my 6-year-old daughter was dealing with the bigger issues of needing forgiveness, cleansing, and internal spiritual change. I was focused on morality, she on the spirituality that makes morality possible and sincere.