In his book When Charity Destroys Dignity, Glenn Schwartz describes how he confronted unresolved inner conflicts. During his time as a missionary in Zambia, Glenn had struggled with the approach his mission administrators took. He vocalized his difference of opinion and came into conflict with other missionaries and church leaders. Once home, Glenn began to experience physical symptoms that doctors determined were due to fear, resentment, bitterness, anxiety, and unmet goals. A missionary friend counseled Glenn to deal with his inner conflicts. Glenn describes what happened next:

I wrote letters to all those with whom I felt my past relationship was either strained or broken. Some were African church leaders, others were missionaries, and several were mission executives.

On the advice of my missionary friend Joe, I wrote 16 letters in which I assumed full responsibility for all that had happened. I blamed no one. The responses I got back were varied. Some wrote to say that they, too, were sorry that our relationship had been broken and they were glad to have it repaired. A few came to see me personally. One missionary wrote something to the effect that, "That's the way you are. I tried to tell you differently, but you wouldn't listen. Furthermore," he said, "when one is five years old his attitudes are set for life, so for you there is little possibility of change."

As for me, I had taken my place, and I was free because I had done all that I knew to do. Such freedom is priceless.