John Freeman writes in an article titled: "Sex and the Silence of the Church”:

In today's highly-charged sexual culture, almost no one is okay in dealing with sexual lust. We don't have to go looking for ways to stain our hearts; it comes looking for us!

But I've learned that we'll go to any lengths to keep from being honest about all this …. [For instance], I was having lunch with a businessman from my church, and halfway through he brought up his Internet pornography usage. What happened next was a microcosm of what is happening throughout the church. I asked him when it started. When he was 10 years old. How often do you look at porn? Several times a week, for a couple of hours at a time. Anyone know about this? No. Are you in a men's group at church? Yes. Does this topic ever come up for discussion? No. Would you be willing to bring it up? No way!

Then he started to backpedal, saying it's not really that big a problem nor is it that damaging. I'm not usually blunt with someone, but I said, "What I hear coming from your mouth is addict-speak. You're far worse off than you can possibly imagine. Can you believe that Jesus longs to enter this area of life with you?" He looked at me like a deer caught in the headlights. I don't think we'll be having lunch again anytime soon.